Roadtrip to Bisbee, Az. Why???

My bff ,Chanse, and I wanted a roatrip, how we picked Bisbee is anyone’s guess. But I took lots of photos. We talked, laughed, talked some more, ate great food, and did I mention we talked?!

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Too early for me to smile.

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We were lucky to make it out alive. Hehe

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Mmmmm, margaritas! It was delicious. I would have asked Daddy for more, but I knew I was lucky to get 1. Thank you Daddy!

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Our wonderful waiter! We think he lost a bet and that’s why he is stuck in this town. Great food! Loved the decor!

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What do they research here? Fountain of youth?

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Plus I got locked in a bathroom. She thought it was funny, me not so much…
Would I ever see my Daddy again??

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Bff just had to go around the cycle. I took the photo quickly, of car coming at us, incase it was the last photo I ever took. Then Daddy would know what happened to me!

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Love ya girl!

♡ babygirl

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The perfect 10 month anniversary

Daddy and I had plans tonight! Fuck each others brains out! And oh my ,we did! Sex with that man just amazes me. We just connect on so many levels. He’s fun,  we both love to play and laugh. I could definitely do this forever. And forever better be a long ass time! I have waited for my perfect Daddy for a very long time. It was such a great time together. I even threw Daddy on the bed
(Ok, so He let me!) And climbed on top of Him just to drive Him crazy, but I wound up getting horny again. Daddy fucked me some more. Just staring into Daddys big blue eyes makes me fall in love with Him all over again.

Happy Anniversary Daddy!  He already texted that to me, and said it! And showed me! Mmmmm gotta love a Daddy like that♡

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I love you Daddy

♡ babygirl

Daddy, Dead pool, and taco bell

Well Daddy stayed the night, and took me to see Deadpool. It was fantastic, definitely a great movie. I’m a lucky girl, I got to see the movie I’d been waiting months for, but more importantly I got to spend some quality time with my Daddy. 

Deadpool was great, but being with Him just makes my heart beat faster, my breath slow, my pulse race, between my legs moist, I never know what He has planned, what will happen,  what my body will go through.

Daddy did let me know that with my home, being so crazy, I haven’t being doing exactly as I should. He was right. My kids will be in my room , or just need me, so I tried making everyone happy. But I am disrespecting my Daddy by not being in position when He walks through the door.

Upon asking a friend of mine what to do. I kind of already knew what she would say. But hearing it hit home. She flat out asked me why was I not offending my kids? I did let her know I try to keep the peace. Which she added,
“Who are you wanting to spend your life with?” She added.
“Daddy, of course.” I said.
“Then offend your children, kneel for your Master, and show Him that He’s #1 at that moment. He didn’t ask for all your moments,  but that one is His and His alone”.

Smart women, and the only slave I trust and adore. She’s so wise, and caring. But I am in the wrong. It won’t happen again. The only man in my life who is served by me, does need to see how much I care. Daddy is very important.

After taking in all that she said, I knew what to do. I know that Daddy and I have long term plans for our life together. The kids will grow up and leave, well they are supposed to do that. But Daddy and I , that’s different, He shall be served each day. Whether He requests it a certain way, or not. When He comes thru the door, I’m to be in position,  unless there’s a damn good reason.  This is the life I have chosen. This is the man I wish to serve. He’s the Daddy I adore, the Master I love.

I did apologize to my Daddy. But for me, the best way to apologize,  is to never repeat that.  Then He will know I’m really meaning what I say.

So, this weekend Daddy ok’d a road trip! I am hoping it will be great. I’ll write about it later.

* we did pick up taco bell after the movie! Just incase you wondered how it came into play !

Hidden Demons and the need for approval.

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As a Dominant, in a relationship, I have control, and I am given the power to decide, by my sub, what is best for both of us.
My sub will often tell me that whatever I do, whether I get it right or wrong, I can never diminish her love for me.
That love transcends anything that may transpire within the D/s side of our relationship and therefore cannot be damaged by the rights or wrongs that may occur during any scene or episode we get involved in.

However, even though I am assured by her that this is and will always be the case, there is a little demon inside me that rears its head from time to time.
It is the one which nags away at me that says: “I need your approval for what I have done”. This “seeking approval” is something we all have to some degree, and which by its very nature, tends to create a conflict with the outward traits that we portray as Dominants.
The Dom, having a fear? No surely not! That goes against all we know about the inner workings of the Dominant; that they might also have demons that sometimes make them stop and think about what they are doing.
But I readily admit that my desire to fulfil my subs D/s needs and the feelings of love we should all hold for them comes into conflict on a regular basis.

It is much the same demon that rears its ugly head (and talking to others I find that I am not the only one who has had to confront this) when administering pain to my sub.
It’s the same old story of “How can I hurt the one I love?”. How many times have we all heard that one?
I know that my sub has needs. I know I have the ability and control to fulfil those needs and yet, in so doing I am breaking traditions that have been laid down over centuries.

Firstly: Not hitting a woman. Going against all the male/female rules instilled in me from birth which I have to get past before I can even begin.
Secondly: How can I hurt her, I love her. Yet, in opposition to these I have the understanding that she needs me to do this for her, and if I don’t, I fail her. Catch 22!!!
Interestingly enough, in any situation, you can apply one side of the coin or the other, although rarely the both.
Take an example: My sub asks me for some new clothes. I have a choice here. I can say yes, and get her approval, because I don’t want to see her go without something she really wants. Or I can refuse, and deny her that, thereby exerting my control of her, perhaps losing her approval, but at the same time satisfying her need to be controlled by me.

The difficulty that we as Dominants face here is to find the right balance; to know when to allow, and when to deny.
This is not always an easy task. Sometimes other factors may be involved too: the sub might ask for her clothes, but the finances won’t allow it.
The decision is not then based upon the need to seek approval but by the reality that we cannot afford it. There is no approval seeking in that decision; simply a facing of the economic facts. It is only when there is no other outside influence that the option to gain approval or not, really comes into play.

In all this it is most important that Dominants have to understand that by asserting their Dominance, they are fulfilling a need in the sub.
It’s not just about their own (Dominant) needs, (often the approval factor can be the greatest need) but about creating a fulfilled relationship.
If all the sub’s needs (that includes the need to be controlled, the need to submit, to be corrected, to feel boundaries/limits enforced, and the need for the individual to be happy and content in all aspects of their lives) are not addressed then it is also likely that the relationship may come under pressure, because something (any or all of the above) is missing.

Whether we care to admit it or not we all seek approval in some way, from our partners, or peers, at some time.
The big thing here is to understand that, and recognise it, and if needs be take control of it. This may be likened in some way to the heart ruling the head: allow the heart to have control and you will likely take the “approval by kindness” option.
Allow the head (or Dominant) to take control of the situation and you are satisfying the subs need to be controlled but denying her the pleasures she craves, as well as creating a conflict in yourself between this and the “Will she approve of me” position.
Take a good hard look at all the factors involved and sometimes (not necessarily always) you might choose the “tough love” option.
Only with experience comes balance, and knowing when to apply each to maintain the relationship on a level which creates fulfilment of all the needs that both parties have.

It is no good satisfying one need while ignoring another.
To be effective in our Dominance we have to find a way to satisfy all the needs of our submissives. By giving her everything she wants you may not ultimately gain approval from your sub anyway, because if she is honest you will not be satisfying her need to feel your control and influence.

Remember this: denying the fulfilment of one need is likely to satisfy another different need (i.e. the submission to the denial). Get the balance right and you will have a happy and contented submissive. Not a simple task, but who said it was easy.

*This is from one of my groups on FB that I belong to. I thought it was fantastic, a very good read. Sometimes we don’t get to see into the mind of our dominant very often. I don’t know if my own Master struggles with this, but I do try to remind Him often how happy I am. I do that for Him, and for myself. If I do struggle I go to Him. But if He has struggled He has not made it known. However, I don’t think He has any problem telling me ‘no’ *

Bdsm is always about balance,  we are ever changing. In this kind of relationship it can be tough if both sides  don’t work hard. We are not vanilla, but we work just as hard at our relationship. Hope you enjoy this writing!  

Remind me

Remind me that I’m the slave you want as I wear those slutty outfits to tease. Make you breathe harder. That with each and every thrust ,as I cum and cum again, you love that they belong to you. That I’m all yours. I don’t waiver on this. That no one compares to you, for you own my heart, you are in my soul, you are on my mind.( you are my Daddy, my Master, I love time with you, you make it so special)

Remind me that when our plans fail, you are as disappointed as i am. As I need to know you miss me. That you need me. Feel lonely without me too.
(I do hate it, but when you let me know you do too, somehow it hurts less in me, thank you for telling me. I need to know)

Remind me that even though your busy, and can’t text or call as much, I’m on your mind.
(I love your surprise texts and calls! They make me feel so loved!)

Remind me that you know I need you, to hear your voice, see your face, kiss you, be held by you, and that you to feel the same. You need me, need to hear my voice, see my face, kiss me, be held by me. (There is nothing like that feeling when you come through the door, but I don’t ever know how to let you go so you can leave, hardest thing ever)

Remind me that you know I sleep better with you by my side at night, but someday it can be more often.
( I know you’re busy, I’m patient, I just need you too♡)

Remind me that I’m a priority in your life. Because you have become quite important in mine.
(I love to be reminded that you think about me)

Remind me that I am the only gift you need in your life, as you to are me. Money can’t buy everything, it didn’t buy our love, our hearts, or our relationship.
(I don’t need gifts, I need you!)

Remind me that I don’t need to hear the words ; ‘I love you’, all the time, because they could lose their meaning, plus you will show me frequently how you feel!
( surprise texts, memes, pics of things you know I like)

You are my gift, you are my love. You are the only man I need. I’m so proud to be yours. You just take my breath away,  but you are also the air I need. I love how you care for me, as we have more time together, I need to be reminded more frequently that I hold your heart.

Feeling so loved

I haven’t written much this week, been busy.  I’m looking for short term job, need to get my taxes done. I’ve had several meetings that I have to attend. Took a class for something that’s important to me. Now just waiting to see deadpool with Daddy.  We hate opening weekends.

Recently,  had a great time with my Daddy! I didn’t get very wordy, it was to special to me. I had been talking to a few friends about trying something new, something that Daddy really wanted.  I had never found a man that could change my mind,  so my answer was always no. The last few months I had been asking them all kinds of questions about it. I just knew when it felt like the right time, I would do it. Well this last week was the right time. I think I even shocked the hell out of my Daddy.  He looked at me , He was breathless, and said;
“I thought you didn’t like that ”
Well, I never thought in a million years I would do that, for any man. But then Daddy came along and showed me what I was missing from my life. Daddy is worth learning new things for.

My Daddy isn’t just any man. He’s the man who found me when I was lost. He’s the man who reminds me constantly that He’s not like others, and gonna hurt me. We have things that we work on, but He really is the best Daddy. He’s someone I have needed in my life , and now I feel like I have everything I ever wanted. Daddy brings out this part of me that I never knew existed. I want to try hard, for Him and myself.

I look forward to our future together. I have no idea what’s in store for us, but I’m not in any hurry either. I like enjoying each day with my Daddy. I want to be the slave He needs. The slave He’s proud to call His. The slave that does her job well, to keep Him happy.

I think Daddy seems happy to. He’s still here! I think He understands how tough some things are for me too, where I didn’t explain it before. He gave me grace to be me in a situation that isn’t mine, but has taught me a lot. I definitely have strength, but I’m very patient. I need to express to Daddy when my patience wears thin, I need Daddy to help renew it and my strength. This situation won’t be forever, so thankful for that. So, for now, I’m trying to keep my mind on happier things. I feel I have no control, so I’m trying to give that thought up, and just concentrate on the one who has control, Daddy.

I’m very thankful for tough times, as much as the good times. You learn a lot about yourself. Like how much you really care for the other person. How you really feel about how strong your relationship is. You can see that what two ppl have is either strong enough to ladt, or it will crumble. Well we didn’t crumble. We are both strong. We both want to be here. We both must truly love and want the other person, because it could have easily slipped away. Real life will happen, we will either pull together, or apart. I think we have staying power. I am positive we belong together. I’m so happy we are.

Now setting up a threesome for me and Daddy! We are both craving it. Finding the right person seems near impossible,  but I won’t give up. I know we will be able to find several women who want some fun with us!