This ceremony goes with collaring first. Or the sub/slave has been collared for already.
The formal lifestyle is filled with traditions and ceremonies. Some haven’t been used in quite sometime, but our lifestyle has thought of everything. If you study the lifestyle you will come across these traditions. The most beautiful, and is centuries old, is the ceremony of the Roses. It is a bonding ritual. This ceremony is all about symbolism. It actually does date back many centuries.i had to look online for the full meaning, as I have forgotten, but I have also never been through this ceremony. I have never seen one, but heard about them. I must say the hopeless romantic in me thinks it sounds breath taking. It can go along side a traditional wedding too, or stand by itself. I still think either way, it’s a good one to go through, as traditional weddings have lost their meaning. It is all about the 2 of you. So it can be very personalized.
It’s about an eternal bond for the couple, who have decided to remain together for the duration of their lives and beyond. This is not a ’til death do us part’, but eternity. Most opt for this ritual as a statement of their eternal commitment, remember it can be used in place of a traditional wedding, or together. It can renew the relationship, or if a couple has gone through a difficult time together and survived the test. There are many variations. Couples can choose how to personalize it, and add special touches and make it uniquely theirs.
This ceremony is never public. The couple should have 2 people attend, you will understand why soon enough.the submissive has a single white rose, closed, not in bloom, Symbolizes white is the purity of her submission, her submission has not come into full bloom, never will, she will always grow and learn.Dominant has a single red rose, in full bloom. Symbolizes red is the blood he vows to shed for her protection, and its openness to show he lets her into his heart. Both roses must have thorns on stems, usually white doesnt, but both must be fresh cut. This will be for the ritual. Couple will also need a 6-8 ft light chain. Along with candles, or alcohol burner, or other liquid fuel.
Couple and 2 others stand and face each other. Candle on a small table, roses are laid down ,red first, the white across it. sub will go to her Doms side for removal of collar. Couple may wear what they want. Dom removes collar, passes it through the flame. Then puts the collar back on the sub. Symbolizes to protect and guide slave for eternity. He can make his eternal vow now. Then they pick up the roses, sub has white, Dom has red. The dominant will prick slaves finger , 2 drops of blood fall onto petals of white rose. Symbolizes taking the slave body and soul. Then dominant will prick his own finger , 2 drops of blood , one on the white petals , the other one of the drops onto one of hers to mingle together. Symbolizes 1st drop to shed his blood to protect slave, 2nd drop seals their unity. They can, at this time, rub the fingers together to mix the blood, they vow to become one in flesh and blood. The Roses are mingled together and they vow to be together for eternity.
The friends with them, will take the chain and pass it through the flame, quickly. Symbolizes it’s series of links thst represent all the couple has gone through. Passing the chain through fire Symbolizes it’s purification. It is then wrapped around them as they make a vow to each other to be bound for eternity. The Roses are exchanged , as a gift to each other of their unity for eternity.The chain is carefully removed, placed in a cloth , given to couple after ceremony. Roses are put into a single vase together, and should be placed in the bed chamber, as later that evening they will join their bodies together.
The next morning they will take turns plucking the petals off the Roses, while talking about their hopes and dreams for the future. The petals are placed in some kind of container. The petals are kept for their lifetime. Each one will have half the petals buried with them.
The chain can either be kept, or passed down to friend or family going through the ceremony. It is a great honor to receive the chain. It can be passed through generations.